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 신현근 박사 강의안: 인생의 목적이 가지는 힘  
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과목:  Formation of a Professional Life Coach

주제:  THE POWER OF PURPOSE              

강사: 신현근 박사 

내용강의안

교재Williams, P. & Menendez, D. S. (2015). Becoming a Professional Life Coach: Lessons from the Institute for Life Coach Training (2nd Ed.). New York and London: W. W. Norton & Company.

 1.       LIVE FROM A DEEP PLACE

1.1.    Rainer Maria Rilke, the 19th-century German poet, wrote to a young would-be poet to “live from a deep place.”

1.1.1.Only then, Rilke said, would his writing become great.

1.2.    It’s not easy for clients to find their deep place when their lives are cluttered and busy.

1.2.1.It requires becoming still and quiet, focusing on beginning the work that we describe below, and making a commitment to themselves— putting themselves at the top of the to-do list.

1.2.2.This is a process of getting to know oneself fully.

1.3.    Supporting clients to find their deep place begins with discovering their life purpose.

1.3.1.When they know their life purpose, they have access to incredible power to make choices and to act.

1.4.    That’s what it did for Terry Fox, a young man from Canada.

1.4.1.Terry was an athlete who was stricken with cancer, lost one of his legs, and was naturally depressed about his situation.

1.4.2.He had lost his sense of a viable future.

1.4.3.Some months into his recovery, after being fitted with a wooden leg, Terry did the serious work of reconsidering who he was.

1.4.4.He discovered a lively vision: that people in his area would care enough about cancer to contribute money to find a cure for bone cancer.

1.4.5.Then he found his own life purpose: he would be the carrier of the message that if communities contributed, a cure could be found.

1.4.6.Shortly thereafter, his mission surfaced: he would run across Canada, from coast to coast, bearing personal witness to the strength of the human spirit and the need for a cure.

 

2.       LIFE PURPOSE

2.1.    Each of us looks for fulfillment and authentic happiness in our own way.

2.1.1.Sometimes the yearning for fulfillment becomes a call so loud and so intense at midlife that we cannot help but step off the path we are on and devote ourselves to the search for fulfillment.

2.1.2.As many midlife questers discover, fulfillment often means returning to deep sources of satisfaction that we may have had glimpses of many years ago.

2.1.3.At that earlier time, we may have lacked the courage to follow the call, or we may have allowed life’s stresses and serious pursuits to cover up the glimmer of what we knew to be true.

2.2.    This pattern takes place in the lives of so many people because each of us has a life purpose that, we believe, has been with us since we were very young.

2.2.1.At moments when we experienced a profound sense of being in the flow— being in the right place, at the right time, using our gifts— we are likely to be living out our life purpose.

2.2.2.Life purpose calls us forth.

2.2.3.It may be a calling we answer, something larger than our small selves, that deeply connects us with others, with what is larger than ourselves.

2.3.    Bookstore shelves are filled with information about our contemporary search for meaning. We know that life purpose has become an important focus for many people: The Purpose-Driven Life (Warren, 2002) has become the biggest selling self-help book of all time.

2.4.    A common definition of life purpose is a calling, an overall theme for your life or intent that transcends your daily activities.

2.4.1.A quick search indicates that the word purpose means many different things to different writers.

2.4.2.A variety of spiritual leaders and traditions have said that the ultimate purpose of our lives is to remember who we are and to whom we owe our lives, and to feel joy.

2.5.    Ancient writers wrote about this topic.

2.5.1.An ancient Tibetan text states that a life purpose is “for the benefit of self and for the benefit of others.”

 

3.       THE IMPORTANCE OF KNOWING LIFE PURPOSE

3.1.    In industrialized countries, 21st-century culture has become obsessed with accumulating just for the sake of accumulating: information, goods, material objects, and more.

3.2.    As we live with these paradoxes, we have lost sight of the importance of being in life.

3.2.1.Many people in the United States misguidedly believe that the only way to have what we want is to work hard and long.

3.3.    There is an alternative: be who you are first.

3.3.1.When you focus on being first, this lets you do what you want to do, which lets you have what you need.

3.3.2.We need to allow ourselves to be first; the rest will follow.

3.3.3.Discovering our life purpose focuses our attention on the essence of who we are— our be-ing.

 

4.       WAYS TO DISCOVER LIFE PURPOSE

4.1.    Create a Lively Vision as the Context for Life Purpose

4.1.1.Clients’ visions are statements about the world in which they want to live.

4.1.2.They don’t need to consider the whole planet unless they want to— just their personal world of friends, community, work colleagues— the world that touches their everyday life.

4.1.3.We suggest using the following process to help clients create their vision.

4.1.3.1.              List the top ten things you love to do or have always done and loved.

4.1.3.1.1.                    Name several things you have consistently made part of your life, regardless of the circumstances.

4.1.3.1.2.                    Examples might include networking with like-minded people, your faith or spirituality, your creativity at work, your heartfelt communications, or your ability to take action under pressure.

4.1.3.2.              Identify the characteristics of the context or environment that support your list from Step 1.

4.1.3.2.1.                    List the qualities of people you want and need to be around to accomplish your top ten.

4.1.3.2.2.                    Draw a series of concentric circles on a blank piece of paper, and write “ME” in the center circle. Each circle represents a group of people who are important to you. Put the names of those closest to you, who affect your life most, in the circle next to you.

4.1.3.2.3.                    Then continue to draw your circles outward: family, friends, work colleagues, professional groups, community, and so on. In each circle, write a few words that describe the qualities this group must embody to support you in just the way you need and want.

4.1.3.2.4.                    Then identify other resources that are essential to you: peacefulness, time in nature, other creative people, and so on. Ask yourself, “What are the essential supporting features of the world I want to live in so that I can be at my best?”

4.1.3.3.              Using the phrases you generated in Step 2, write one to two sentences that express your vision of the world you want to live in.

4.1.3.3.1.                    This is the path of least resistance for you, the world you flourish in and want to create for yourself through purpose-full action.

4.1.3.3.2.                    Crystallize the essence of your vision.

4.1.3.3.3.                    For example, “My vision is that all people of the world will be able to live their lives by choice— in a way that matters to them.”

4.1.3.3.3.1.   This vision expresses the fact that choice is essential for the writer.

 

4.2.    Examine Past Experiences to Discover Purpose

4.2.1.Overview

4.2.1.1.              Our purpose serves us in many ways.

4.2.1.1.1.                    It is our compelling reason for living.

4.2.1.1.2.                    It gives meaning to our work and our life.

4.2.1.1.3.                    It guides our choices.

4.2.1.1.4.                    Some people describe their purpose as their “calling.”

4.2.1.1.5.                    Whatever we call it, it profoundly shapes the direction of our life.

4.2.1.2.              The steps below draw on clients’ past experiences to create a grounded sense of life purpose.

4.2.1.2.1.                    This is a powerful and effective way for clients to source their life purpose because it is based on the reality of their life— what they have already experienced and what they know about themselves from many years of living— not on what their intellect alone tells them to want.

4.2.1.3.              Clients’ purpose statements are unique to those clients.

4.2.1.3.1.                    Whether or not they are conscious of it, they have already been living out their purpose in some way.

4.2.1.3.2.                    Because of this, they can plumb their past to find their purpose.

4.2.2.Ask your clients to the following exercises.

4.2.2.1.              List a dozen or more examples of times in your life when you knew you were on purpose.

4.2.2.1.1.                    That is, you had an intuitive sense of being aligned with the exact reasons why you are in the world. Some people recognize they are on purpose because they are “in the flow”.

4.2.2.2.              Write briefly about each of these examples.

4.2.2.3.              Highlight key words and phrases.

4.2.2.4.              Draft a brief statement of your life purpose in two to four sentences using the key words and phrases of your life purpose.

4.2.2.5.              Test your purpose.

 

5.       BEING PURPOSE-FULL: WORKING WITH LIFE PURPOSE

5.1.    Terms

5.1.1.Life purpose is our calling— the underlying reason for being that gives meaning to our life.

5.1.1.1.              It is the purpose an individual enacts throughout a lifetime.

5.1.1.2.              Spiritual traditions often describe a universal life purpose for all human beings.

5.1.1.3.              For example, when asked what he believed to be the meaning of life, the Dalai Lama said, “To be happy and to make others happy.”

5.1.1.4.              Within the universal life purpose for all human beings, individuals still must find their own life purpose.

5.1.2.Mission is the particular way or ways we choose to fulfill our purpose at a particular point in our life.

5.1.2.1.              For example, individuals whose life purpose is to “honor and evoke the highest and best in myself and others” might fulfill that purpose through many different kinds of work and actions over the course of their life.

5.1.3.Vision refers to a specific, compelling image of the future that an individual holds

5.2.    Ways to Work with Life Purpose

5.2.1.Coaches and their clients have many options for working with life purpose.

5.2.2.We’ve included a list of books at the end of this chapter, each of which includes suggestions for helping clients identify life purpose.

5.2.3.A rich purpose statement should, in fact, be big and inclusive, enough so that it compels the clients to expand.

5.2.4.A purpose statement is a private thing, unlike a company’s vision statement that hangs on the wall.

5.2.4.1.              It is something we use privately to create our goals and our life.

5.2.4.2.              Make sure your clients understand that no one besides themselves and their coach ever needs to know their life purpose unless they choose to share it with others.

5.2.5.The clients’ purpose is not necessarily something they discover in midlife.

5.2.5.1.              In fact, it probably has been with them for quite some time, even though they may never have articulated it.

5.2.5.2.              This is why they will benefit from going back into their past and working with some real experiences of being “on purpose.”

5.2.6. When we are on purpose, we live from our being, or our core self.

5.2.6.1.              When we have lost track and are living “off purpose,” our life feels less fulfilling.

5.2.6.2.              Many clients discover that when they have chosen work or a way of life that does not feel fulfilling, it is because they have lost sight of their purpose.

5.2.6.3.              They have become a human doing instead of a human being.

5.3.    Using Life Purpose with Clients

5.3.1.Almost all clients can benefit from life purpose work if they have adequate willingness and a capacity for self-reflection.

5.3.2.Sometimes clients need to be taught the value of reflection in order to benefit from life purpose work.

5.3.2.1.              Using inquiries with clients, powerful questions that guide their focused attention and lead to introspection can be helpful in developing the ability to self-reflect, as can meditation practices, journaling, and many of the other tools we use in our role as helping professionals.

5.3.2.2.              Sometimes in the natural cycle of life, clues emerge that suggest life purpose work may be called for:

5.3.2.2.1.                    A client in midlife feels listless, fatigued, and disenchanted.

5.3.2.2.2.                    The client has experienced losses— deaths, job losses, or health issues— that make the old way of living no longer possible.

5.3.2.2.3.                    The client is overwhelmed with life and is asking, “Is this the life I really want to lead?”

5.3.2.2.4.                    The client has undergone significant life transitions— children have left, retirement is near, divorce has occurred, and so on.

5.3.2.2.5.                    The client feels a serious mismatch between current work and/ or roles and the deep desires of the self.

5.4.    Life Purpose Work and Deep Change

5.4.1.In our private lives, as well as in our professional lives, getting back “on purpose” may require some startling changes.

5.4.1.1.              Living from a deep place is not easy to maintain in 21st-century life in the United States, where speed, multitasking, and constant noise make lack of depth a fact of life.

5.4.1.2.              Living from a deep place may require a client to undergo deep change.

5.4.2.The truth is that almost any moment offers us an opportunity to live out our life purpose.

5.4.2.1.              By choosing work, relationships, avocations, creative pursuits, and other life elements consciously, we can find the most fulfilling ways to experience our purpose.

5.4.3.Life purpose work can also help clients begin to sense and/ or to live out a higher level of consciousness.

5.5.    A Life Purpose Statement for Andy (An example)

5.5.1.My life purpose is to create connection between myself, my clients, and all those I contact to the universal whole of life, through joyfully living and transforming our life challenges into sources of creativity and learning.

5.6.    Using Life Purpose as a Guide

5.6.1.The real benefit of knowing one’s life purpose comes when clients use it as a guide to make choices and decisions that lead to greater, more authentic happiness and fulfillment.

5.6.1.1.              Life purpose work leads clients to discover new choices, as well as to become clear about directions to pursue and choices to release.

5.6.2.Helping professionals regularly encounter clients who have been living out roles, values, and commitments that were assigned to them early on by their family of origin.

5.6.2.1.              Clients often seek coaching because those old ways don’t work for them anymore.

5.6.2.2.              Once they discover their individual life purpose, they may discover, with sadness or with elation, that the roles they have chosen to play and the line of work they have chosen have never fit them well.

5.6.3.This happened to a client who had spent 20 years working as a divorce lawyer, never feeling a sense of fulfillment from the work.

5.6.3.1.               When he did the life purpose work, he chose only one of his 25 on-purpose examples from his legal career.

5.6.3.2.              Most of the examples he chose came from his church work, his volunteer work as a Big Brother, and his 10 years of service to the board of education in his township.

5.6.3.3.              Recognizing what these choices meant to him about his fulfillment at work, he felt deeply sad about this situation and needed to do some grief work before moving forward with his life work.

5.6.3.4.              He gave himself time for grieving, and then was able to articulate his life purpose in this way: Through intuitively catalyzing people and ideas, I create understanding, awareness, and connections that enhance people’s lives.

 
 
 
 
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